Habits of Happy People
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Decide to be
Happy
Happiness
depends in the inner conditions and not the outer conditions. If we realize that we hold the power to decide what to
feel regardless of what happens in our environment/surroundings,
you instantly gain happiness.
Let me share
a story from my friend’s post, she calls this “Law of the Garbage Truck”.
One
day she hopped in a taxi and they took off for the airport. The taxi was
driving in the right lane when
suddenly a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of it. The taxi driver slammed on the brakes, momentarily
skidded and missed the black car by
just inches! The driver of the black car turned his head around and started
yelling. The taxi driver just smiled and waved
at the guy. And the way he did it was really friendly
and not sarcastic. So my friend amazed with what the taxi driver did, asked, “Why did you just do that? The guy
almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!" That was the time she realized the taxi driver had
just taught her a wonderful lesson, she
called it, “The Law of the Garbage Truck.”
See, many people are like garbage
trucks. They roam around full of garbage - frustrations,
anger, disappointments and negative feelings. As their garbage piles up, they eventually need a place to dump them and
sometimes they'll dump it on you. Don't take
it personally. Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Don't take their garbage and spread it to other people at
work, at home, or on the streets.
Happy
and positive people do not let garbage trucks take over their day. They just try to understand where the other
person is coming from and move on. They know that
life is a combination of what you make it and how you take it. Because they
know that they have power over their feelings,
outside factors rarely affect them, they always decide to be happy.
- Apply the power of positive thinking
Somewhat related to the first
principle, thinking positive always give you feeling of happiness. This is because when you think positive thoughts,
more positive thoughts are attracted
to you. But on the contrary, when you get caught up in spiraling negative thoughts like unreasonable fear or
anxiety, notice how this thoughts magnify and eventually
blows out of proportion and as a result makes you more worried and restless.
Happy people worked on controlling
their thoughts and mastered how to harness the power
of positive thoughts. They always look on the positive side of things no matter
how bad the situation may seem.
For the reason that they recognize how powerful thoughts are. They are aware of the massive impact of thoughts
in their life.
So when you stumble or being
bothered by a negative thought, try to silent your mind and search for the calmness for a moment, noticed how the
negative thought diminished?
Now convert the thought into the positive side and see how you instantly feel great.
- Maintain emotional wellness
Emotional wellness, how can you keep your emotions
well? By simply practicing the first 2 habits, you can maintain emotional
wellness. I’m not implying that you would not have negative thoughts or down
feelings. Negative thoughts and down feelings are common and often visit us.
They are present to keep balance and comparison.
It’s not how much these emotions occur but how fast
you can turn away from these emotions. When it comes to emotions, there are no
rights or wrongs; they are feelings period. It becomes right or wrong by the
way we handle them; how we manifest them in the physical world. Emotions are
emotions; they become unhealthy when you mishandle them.
- Have an attitude of gratitude
Always feel thankful. Think of the things you should
be thankful of. And for sure you’ll instantly feel better. This way, the focus would
be on the good things. Learn to appreciate the little things the world gave you
or other people did for you. And in return as a token of gratitude, pay it
forward. Don’t expect anything in return for you already received them before
hand. Reciprocate the blessings by being a blessing to others. Practice these
in your life and eventually develop it to be an attitude and I dare you not
feel happy.
- Live in the present
By living in the present, not entirely means that you
have to forget the past or not consider the future; far from it. This just
means that you have to take time and live one day a time. Leave the emotional
baggage of the past. Stop living in the past. You don’t have to totally erase
your past; squander the negative feelings but collect the lessons and let them
be the guide in living in the present.
Let the future be your inspiration for the present
knowing that each day lived would be one step closer to future you dreamed of.
Don’t take it the other way around. Don’t worry too much of the future because
you have the power in the present to shape that future. “Worrying doesn’t empty tomorrow of its
trouble, It empties today of its strength.” Instead, ride the great feeling
of achieving the dream and feed from that feeling the energy needed to live the
“gift.” (present)
- Love what you do, do what you love
This may sound like a cliché, but works well. What is
a better way to feel happy than doing what you love and loving what you do.
It’s very normal that people do what they love; they achieve pleasure every
time they engage in the activities they love.
But what if you don’t like what you are doing? First
ask yourself why? The reason maybe is that you’re not good at what is it that
you do. Or you’re not getting the results you expected of what you do. Think of
it this way, the first time you engaged in a sport/activity you like, were you
good at it the first time? Did you get the result you wanted the first time?
There are some rare times. (that’s why you’d hear someone say, “you’re a natural
at this) But most often than not, most of us have to struggle the first time.
But if you really love the activity, you develop the determination to continue
and find ways to improve until you get the results you wanted. So really the
secret is to love what you do and the rest will follow.
- Approach life with humor and laughter
This ain’t the first time you ever heard of this,
“laughter is the best medicine.” You may not believe this but laughter really
does heal the deadliest diseases. So think how much more it can do to improve
feelings. When you approach life with humor and laughter, there would be very
seldom times you would feel down. Even a simple smile can instantly change the
way you feel. (I’m not talking about a smirk but a genuine one) What more if
you live life with so much laughter. Have you ever notice the effect on you
when you watch comedy films/shows? You instantly feel better and more alive
once the crisp laughter is pulled out of you.
- Eat and live healthy
Eat healthy foods and live a healthy life. When the
body feels good, it is easier to feel and think positively. We should all take
care of our body by eating only the beneficial foods and by living a healthy
life. Stray from foods, substances that eventually destroy the physical body; steer
clear of habits that don’t benefit the body. When you feel good physically, it
is much easier to think and act positively.
- Observe a healthy spiritual life
Probably one of the most important habits of happy
people is observing a healthy spiritual life, and I’m not just talking about
religious beliefs. True, religions offer feel good teachings based on their
respective faith, but what about atheists, are we saying they’re not happy?
Let’s not generalize that when we say spiritual that it has to be religious or
have to do with religion.
“Some things are true whether we believe or not.” Like
gravity for example, it is present and affects all regardless if we believe or
not. And one thing that man has is spirit. Some may call it aura, vibration or
in the religious aspect – soul. Continue to develop a healthy spiritual life;
I’m not going to details because we have different take on the matter.
What I want to imply is that we should continue to
develop that “spirit” which in turn affects our way of thinking, speaking,
feeling and acting towards the positive.
Try to practice the habits every time you can, it may
start as a single thread adding another thread every time until it becomes a
strong cable that binds us to happiness. “First we make our habits and then our
habits make us.” Won’t you rather make a habit of making us happy?
And oh, so may I also share – The strangest secret of
success is being happy most of the time.
Decide to be happy!
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Until the next post,
LoVen’z
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